It wasn’t Okay, I’m Sorry, I understand…

It wasn’t Okay, I’m Sorry, I understand…

It wasn’t okay that you were told you were too much. I’m sorry you were told to suck it up, buttercup when you vocalized your emotions.

I understand why you are so triggered by the big feelings of young children. It’s hard not to be when you were told that your emotions don’t matter and you were minimized to the point of invisibility.

It wasn’t okay that your mistakes were met with judgment and shame. I’m sorry someone hit you and told you they did it out of love. I understand why you may see this as a form of discipline but if discipline means to teach you were taught that your feelings weren’t valid.

I want you to know that mistakes are okay, that punishment leads to shame and that you deserved better. You don’t have to continue this cycle of punishment and shame. You can choose to be a better, more responsive caregiver for the children in your life.